Stop being a f*cking hater…

OK so for most people there is a level of hater. Especially when things are not going great for you or you perceive them as doing better. But I’ve noticed the internet gives us a medium where we can be our worst selves and have little consequences. And yes, it’s harmful, hurtful and just plain fucked up to spend time tearing someone else down. You see truly disgusting slurs thrown by some faceless, nameless, for the most part anonymous being. But that’s not the focus of this post.

Not only is being a hater a waste of your time. More importantly it’s a habitual cycle you’re contributing to within yourself. How your brain processes and thinks is a habit. When you’re immediately going to hating a person, what their doing, thinking all these disparaging things about them, you’re reinforcing that way of thinking and you’re building a habit that ultimately is destructive to YOU. Yes you. If you’re constantly thinking shitty things about everyone else, can you really be mentally healthy enough to reflect on yourself or consider ways to build yourself up. How can you succeed in your own life when your life is wasted hating on every other random you’re watching excel.

Your time and effort is better spent if you wish them well and learn from their example. Ask yourself “what are they doing that I am not?”, “how can I do that too?”. I’m not suggesting that you need to copy their lives, but is there something about their work ethic, point of view, marketing strategy, time management, anything that you can use in your own life to improve. There must be a reason they are doing well right? Even if you dislike the content or what a person stands for, there is still something they are doing right. If you can take nothing positive from it, why are you wasting your time watching, following, commenting, thinking about and spending emotional energy on them.

So yea, stop wasting your life hating on others.

Published by Stefani

I'm just a girl trying to find my happiness and balance in this modern world. I am hesitant and unable to ever describe myself as a singular thing and true to myself I'm unsure of what kind of content I will be publishing. I want to share myself with the world as I am on my journey to become a better version of myself. Facts about me: I am in my 20s. I am Chinese, Black and random from Jamaica. I have a bachelors of science in Biology. I was diagnosed with a number of mental health issues in university. I am the 'owner' of an australian shepherd I am a mom to a awesome little girl I am an atheist I am a lost human being And I am trying to be a writer, motivator and just share in my journey. I have always had a lot to say and for some reason over time I have grown to silence myself and just fold into myself and become this shy hermit. I know I am a smart person who is very introspective and analytical and I truly think I can add value to others. Somewhere along the way I have just lost the confidence to be in the world.

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